A male activist gets angry at a woman for disagreeing with him, so he kicked her out of the group page and later made a post that he would kick anyone, male or female, out of the group for “defending violence against women”, when this girl wasn’t actually defending violence against women, she was talking about her experience with watching her brother endure an abusive relationship for years. The above argument was due to a post on the page about Whoopi Goldberg’s recent spoken opinion that a woman cannot expect to not get hit by a man when she provokes him. While I think I understand what she was really trying to say, that chivalry cannot be expected of men in a modern age where women are equal to men, I disagree because I don’t think ANYONE has the right to hit ANYONE just because they are provoked. Not because women are sensitive little snowflakes deserving of special treatment even when SHE is the one that is being abusive.
Anyway. This is just an example of something that irritates me sometimes when it comes to male feminists. Sometimes you don’t know EVERYTHING about feminism and as a man and an ally to female victims of abuse and sexual assault (which is what the page is about), to a certain extent, you should respect a woman’s opinion on the subject and not resort to kicking her out of a group page just because you’ve decided your opinion is more valid. Listen. And be willing to admit when you’re overstepping. Don’t speak OVER women. Don’t speak on BEHALF of women. And vice versa with any activist for an oppressed group or community. If I was a white person, and I created a page against systematic injustice for PoC, and a PoC gave an opinion that I found I disagreed with, my response would not be to automatically label that person as suffering from internal racism and brainwashing and invalidate them and their experience.
All in all, however, I think he listened to me and he did not make the choice to kick me off the page. So I hope he learned something.
Source for the 40% statistic for domestic violence against men
HELP FOR ABUSED MEN
Remember. Admitting that domestic violence occurs for men too does not negate or erase women’s issues. If anything, it is a feminist issue too, because the main reason behind the belief that men are not victims of abuse is often due to the socialized idea that women are incapable of being strong, incapable of over-powering men, basically society thinks women are too weak to be able to hurt a man. And that’s shitty, dude. And it’s super shitty that men often suffer in silence much like women do, all because the idea that he is being abused is laughable to people. Seen as a joke. This IS a feminist issue.
Nm. He didn’t learn anything.